How to Handle Kids Who Have Behavior Problems

Oftentimes, kids misbehave in response to something they perceive to be negative. Triggers to bad behavior can arise from disagreement with parental requests or decisions. Previously experienced abusive situations may also cause behavior problems in kids. There are many ways to handle behavior problems, only some of which are effective. Administering direct discipline will not only resolve behavior problems, but will teach kids self-control and self-discipline. Showing kids the consequences of their actions can break the cycle of behavior issues.

Instructions

1. Determine whether you can stop bad behavior by ignoring or punishing it. For instance, temper tantrums are often stopped by ignoring them. Extensively bad behavior should be punished.

2. A reminder or warning should be given the first time misbehavior is displayed. Make direct eye contact as well as keep a firm voice. Minor issues may be solved at this point.

3. Misbehavior committed after a warning should be disciplined. Be clear and specific about the punishment to be given. It should be related to the behavior and include a time limit.

4. Provide a warning to any additional misbehavior of consequences that may be suffered. Stand at a closer distance and make direct, prolonged eye contact. Specify any expectations of self-control you have, and that will be met with a more severe form of discipline if not fulfilled.

5. Give the child the opportunity to follow through with acceptable behavior. If there is noncompliance, then send the child to a specific location. This can be an empty room or a corner. Ignore any aggressive outbursts -- whining, yelling or arguing.

6. At the end of the timed separation, go to the child's room or corner. Speak calmly and without emotion, explaining the consequences that are in effect and for how long the punishment will continue.

7. Always enforce the warned consequences. Letting this step slip will let the child think that he can get away with misbehavior without discipline. After time has been served in punishment, forgive him and start over. Do not keep bringing up past behavior as this demonstrates lack of forgiveness.

8. Reward good behavior with positive words of encouragement. Use some type of system of good marks you have devised, depending on the age of your child.

Tips & Warnings

• Avoid physical punishment.

• Do not yell, argue, display sarcasm or insult the child. Keep emotions in control.

• Discipline current behavior problems and past issues. Never give out harsher punishments because of past behavior.

References

• Family Doctor.org/ Child Behavior: What Parents Can Do to Change Their Child's Behavior
• Behavior in Children/How parents can influence their children's behavior