How to Make Friends From Acquaintances

A cup of coffee can be an icebreaker into a friendship.

Developing a new friendship from someone you vaguely know can seem intimidating and challenging. You might wonder what to say or how to approach this person without seeming clingy, strange or desperate. Chances are, that person wants to get to know you too, but someone needs to make the first move. Self-confidence and a smile can go a long way to introducing yourself to someone new. Following through and creating a long lasting friendship can be just as simple.

Instructions

1. Spend more time talking and getting to know an acquaintance by asking questions about their life and interests. Take things slow and do not ask too many personal questions, which will seem strange and pushy. Use social cues to guide your conversation. For example, if you notice an acquaintance wearing a particular sports team on his shirt, you might want to comment about the team or open up a discussion about that sport.

2. Suggest a neutral or group activity to start spending more time together. Go for a cup of coffee or lunch with someone from work. Discuss carpooling as a way to save money and get to know each other better. Attend the opening of a mutual friend's band with others you both know.

3. Host a small party at your home and invite the person you want to create a friendship with. A party can create comfort and familiarity, particularly when mutual friends are present. Play a fun icebreaker game, such as charades or Pictionary, and offer to be the person's teammate.

4. Attend work, school or community functions to spend more time with people you are getting to know. Many workplaces hold luncheons or after-work mixers from time to time, and your college alumni association is likely to do the same. These social events give you a chance to see others from a different perspective, which can assist you in taking the friendship to another level.

5. Wear an interesting pin or shirt or carry a funky handbag or wallet as a conversation piece. This can help break the ice and meet new people. It gives you and another person something to start talking about, then you can continue getting to know each other as your conversation expands.

6. Take things slow and let the relationship develop naturally. Talk about and do things you enjoy with this person and do not force anything to happen. This will ensure the relationship is a positive one in your life.

References

• Beliefnet: 13 Ways to Make Friends; Theresa J. Borchard; 2011

Resources

• Beliefnet: Friendship
• Redbook: Making Friends at 40; Julia Litton; 2011