How to Fix an Unfaithful Marriage
Infidelity creates a crisis that will test any marriage. The good news is that the crisis can be resolved through love and a commitment to preserve your marriage. There is no quick fix to repairing a damaged marriage, so one of the keys to your success is in understanding that you have a long term project ahead of you. Be considerate of your spouse during the healing period, and keep lines of communication open to restore trust.
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Apologize for the infidelity. Whether one or both spouses have been unfaithful, it's important to be honest about the fact that infidelity occurred. Acknowledge that your actions have hurt your spouse and express remorse for them. Understand that forgiveness might not come right away and anger is a normal response. Allow your spouse space to vent. Walk away from conversations if your emotions get high instead of fighting fire with fire. Resume conversation when you cool off.
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Attend marriage counseling sessions with a qualified marriage therapist who you feel comfortable with. A professional marriage counselor can facilitate an honest and open conversation about the root causes of the infidelity. Counseling can also help you to recognize and understand areas in which you haven't been communicating with your spouse, and how the frustrations led to infidelity. You can also use the counseling process to identify your immediate goals for the marriage, and the steps that you need to take in order to accomplish them.
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Reestablish trust and intimacy by spending planned, quality time together. Write down lists of activities that you enjoy, then compare them with your spouse's. Choose a few activities that you can enjoy together and make room for them in your schedule. If you have kids, find a trustworthy and reliable babysitter so that you can enjoy time alone together at least once a week.
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