How to Talk to Girls If You're Afraid of Them
Talking to strangers can be nerve-wracking for most people, and things can feel more complicated when you're a shy guy who wants to talk to a girl. The good news is that you can overcome your fear by getting comfortable with yourself. Don't compare yourself to popular people you know personally, or to celebrities, because many of them are naturally shy people who learned to be good conversationalists through practice. Be yourself instead so that you can attract girls who like you for who you are, and with practice, making conversation will stop feeling scary.
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Make eye contact, smile at girls and say "hello." In "Confidence: Stepping Out," Psychology Today says the best way to master your fear is by facing it head-on. Approaching girls you don't know won't be easy at first, but the worst that can happen is that they will ignore you. You will find, however, that more people respond to smiles than do not, and saying hello will get easier.
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Start conversations with girls who smile back at you. If they don't look rushed, then take the opportunity to talk to them. Keep smiling, and ask open-ended questions to begin the flow of communication. Open-ended questions invite answers other than "yes" or "no." For example, don't ask a girl whether she likes a book or a movie. Instead, ask whether she thinks the book or movie is good and why she liked it.
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Visit places where you are likely to find girls with whom you have something in common. Choose a specific number of girls you'd like to talk to, and plan to accomplish your goal each time you go out. If you are a student, a campus lounge or park area may be a good place to approach girls you recognize from your classes or your major. Bookstores, coffee shops, parks and club meetings are also good places for both students and working people to meet and greet.
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Tips & Warnings
Remember that conversation is a skill you need to practice regularly, or you will get rusty. Don't let rejection stop you from talking to girls, and never take it personally.
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