How to Talk to a Wife That Wants a Divorce

Deciding to divorce is incredibly difficult.

During a period where discussions of divorce are taking place, emotions will definitely be heightened. It is important to realize that if a spouse has brought up the topic of divorce, they have probably been thinking about it for a long time and have a solid mind set regarding their decision. That being said, a marriage is made up of two individuals and it is important to recognize and respect the emotions of both parties during the process. If adultery has occurred this process might be difficult and communication strained.

Things You'll Need

• A private, comfortable place
• Paper
• Pen

Instructions

1. Make a list of goals that can be achieved during the discussion and questions that you have about your wife's decision, focusing on what you want to gain through talks with your spouse.

2. Find a comfortable, private place to dialogue with your wife.

3. Approach your wife about the discussion. Ask that she bring an open mind and invite her to meet with you to discuss the situation.

4. Use facts, feelings, "I" statements, and a plain, objective tone when outlining the points to avoid elevating the discussion to an argument.

Tips & Warnings

• A spouse who has asked for, or brought up the topic of divorce is probably very serious about his or her decision. Further dialogue might be more detrimental.

References

• Deal with Divorce: How to Tell Your Spouse You Want a Divorce
• Deal with Divorce: Should I Try to Save My Marriage?

Resources

• Divorce Support