How to Get Your Wife to Forgive You

Getting your wife to forgive your wrong-doings may prove diffcult.

As with any relationship, arguments and disagreements in a marriage are inevitable. Your wife will do and say things she'll regret and you'll do the same. Husband and wife should do their best to forgive and forget in order to move on with their marriage. In some circumstances, however, an act may be deemed unforgivable, which results in a complete shut-down of emotions. To get your wife to forgive you, you'll need to practice patience, kindness and understanding.

Instructions

1. Apologize to her sincerely. Even if you've already done so, you need to think back to your apology. A sincere apology will be without the word "but" and without excuses. An unconditional apology means that you've recognized your wrong-doings and accepted responsibility for your actions.

2. Explain that your intentions were never to hurt her. Tell her that it hurts you to see her upset. However, avoid making it seem as though you're turning yourself into the victim. Simply tell her that if you could do things differently, you would.

3. Practice patience. It's likely that your wife will be very distant and withdrawn. Allow her to sort her thoughts. While she contemplates her next move, demonstrate your love for her. No matter how unreceptive she's being, you need to show her that you still care. Ask her about her day when she comes home from work. When she's upset, ask if she wants to talk.

4. Treat her like you did in the beginning. The spark in a relationship often fizzles out as children, financial burdens and work take up most of your time. Take a time out from the daily stresses of life and treat her to a date. Flirt with her, make her laugh and treat her like you did on your first date.

5. Offer marriage counseling. If all else fails, use marriage counseling as a last resort to patch up your relationship. Show her that you will do anything it takes to save the marriage.

Tips & Warnings

• If your wife wants to take a break, give her space. Time apart may help her realize just how much she loves you and how important the relationship is to her.

• Avoid sexual advances while your wife sorts her thoughts. You will likely come of as inconsiderate and selfish.

References

• Marriage Missions: What If the Other Person Won't Forgive You? by Dr Thomas A. Whiteman and Dr Thomas G. Bartlett
• Staggered USA; "30 Ways to Make Your Wife Happy";Brenda Della Casa

Resources

• How to Forgive