How to Cope When Your Wife Has Left for Some Space
If you're wife has left you, you're probably feeling hurt, confused and angry. You might also be feeling hopeless and helpless. Your life will go on, but perhaps not in the way you envisioned. Remember that you are dealing with loss and that it may take some time to feel heal. Stay strong with the help of family, friends and trained professionals.
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Instructions
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Coping
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Accept and deal with the situation as it is. Find out if the marriage is over for good or whether this is a temporary separation.Decide if you want to stay in the marriage or move on.
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Offer to go to marriage counseling to work out any existing marital issues--if saving the marriage is what you want. Let your wife know that you are committed to saving the marriage. Accept responsibility for any part you played in her decision. Don't argue with your wife about her feelings--this will harm any chances of reconciliation.
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Unburden yourself. Talk to a therapist and/or a priest, minister or rabbi (depending on your religion) to help you cope with the situation.Join a therapy group specializing in marriage partners dealing with being left. Cry or punch a pillow to release feelings of hurt and anger.
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Accept support from family and friends. If they are willing to listen, talk to them about how you are feeling. Avoid anyone who isn't actually helping you, who criticizes you and makes you feel even worse about the situation.
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Stay active. Socialize with friends and family---it may be hard, but force yourself to go to the movies, a ball game, and family dinners. Go to the gym and exercise, take up running, learn to cook, or read.
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Learn to appreciate the positive things in your life---perhaps other family members, your dog, your job. Volunteer at a soup kitchen or church that helps the homeless and be thankful for all you have in your life.
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Tips & Warnings
Don't unburden yourself to the same person day after day---they've got problems, too. Talk to different people over the course of a week, or save your sessions for your therapist.
Don't write anything on a social network that you'll later regret. Yes, you're angry, but once it's on any social network, it's public. The same goes for texting--keep it positive, or keep quiet.
Don't stalk with your wife with texts or phone calls. If you want her back, let her know and then wait for a response. If there's no response, you have her answer.
