Having an emotionally distant wife is in some ways even more frustrating than having a combative one in the sense that with the latter, at least everything is out in the open. The hardest part about resolving the situation is to get to the bottom as to why she's behaving that way without driving her further away. One key is to be familiar with the common reasons. Everything from lack of forgiveness to fear of dealing with issues can be a cause. With ample amounts of patience and understanding, it is possible to get her to come back emotionally
Make plans to talk things out. Eventually, there has to be a resolution. It's important to not be too angry or aggressive. Don't force the issue, but simply state that you sense things aren't quite the way they used to be and that you would like to begin working through the issues that ail the marriage.
Listen to her. It's important to have a thick skin, because many times as a husband you may assume that it's only outside factors influencing her behavior. Many times when her distance is directly correlated to the husband's actions, he doesn't even know it.The key is to not get defensive, as things could regress further if you do.
Work with her, no matter what. It's better for you to see her emotional distance as an issue that you both have to work through. The worst thing you can do is treat it like some sort of disease that she and only her will have to deal with. William F. Harley, Jr, Ph.D. offers what he calls the Policy of Joint Agreement, which states that a couple shouldn't agree to anything that they aren't emphatically in agreement over. This will seem hard at first, but over time, the benefits---getting your wife to come back emotionally---will manifest themselves.
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