How to Talk to a Depressed Teen

Teenage depression is a serious concern.

Depression is a life-altering ailment that affects about one in eight teenagers. Noticing the signs of depression can be challenging, but it is imperative to address the issue. Some common signs of teenage depression include changes in sleep or eating habits, frequent crying and withdrawal. You may notice your teen displaying irritability, along with a lack of enthusiasm and loss of interest in activities the teen once enjoyed. Approaching a teenager with depression should not be taken lightly.

Instructions

1. Approach the teenager in a non-judgmental manner. Express that you have noticed signs of depression and relay your concern.

2. Remain calm and loving if the teen is not responsive at first. Let the teen know that you want to listen to her concerns. Be persistent but not overbearing when talking to the teenager. Don't force the teen to talk and respect her comfort level. Be patient because it may take time for the teenager to open up.

3. Avoid lecturing when a teen finally opens up. Stress your concern, but focus on listening to his issues. Ask him if he wants your help finding solutions. Do not give him advice if he does not want it, and do not give him ultimatums.

4. Respond to your teen's concerns with validation. Even if you feel her concerns seem irrational, remember that the problems seem real to her. You want the teenager to know that you understand she is feeling sad and her concerns are valid.

5. Talk to the teenager about seeing a psychologist or doctor who can help him work through his issues. Set up an appointment with a medical professional right away.

Tips & Warnings

• Get professional help from a psychologist if the teenager continues to exhibit signs of depression over several months.

• Get professional help immediately if the teenager expresses any suicidal tendencies.

References

• Help Guide: Teen Depression - A Guide for Parents and Teachers
• Kids Health: Depression Is Common