How to Date Your Ex During a Separation
Some people go into a separation knowing that they are done and will eventually get a divorce. Others ask for a separation to think about the relationship and see if it can be salvaged before moving on to divorce. When two people who are separated decide that they may be able to make things work, it is important for the couple to revert to dating status and woo each other all over again to make the relationship stronger.
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Instructions
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Leave the past in the past. It is important not to make the same mistakes that landed you in a separation, but it is also important to let your mistakes lie. Passing the blame back and forth will not resolve your problems or save your marriage.
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Keep the lines of communication open. Make your intentions known when you go on dates with your ex. The advantage to dating your ex during a separation is that you already know each other and you can focus on repairing your marriage. Always be open and honest about where you would like things to go.
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Lay out the rules. You may decide it is okay to date other people, as well. Or you may want to remain exclusive. Set these rules before you begin to date again, so that you two are on the same page.
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Take things slowly. Do not rush into any aspect of the relationship that you are not yet ready for. Yes, you are still legally married, but if your ex has hurt you, she will need to rebuild that trust, which will take time.
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Discuss what you would like to see change before you consider your marriage to be back on track. Both of you will likely need to make changes. Be open and willing to listen to your ex about what he wants from you, just as you want him to listen to what you want.
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Romance your ex just as you did when you first met. Show her that you still love her and how much she means to you. Sometimes, lack of romance can be very damaging to a relationship and this may be a big step toward a reconciliation.
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Tips & Warnings
If there are important changes that need to be made, such as anger management, drug abuse or an alcohol addiction, require that your ex gets the help he needs before you agree to give your marriage another try.
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