How to Get Forgiveness After Cheating
Infidelity is one of the biggest betrayals in a marriage, and its devastating effects can break up the relationship. The adulterer often feels guilty about cheating, and the wronged partner can feel hurt and abandoned. But infidelity doesn't have to lead to divorce. With enough time, patience and determination, it is possible for some couples to overcome the pain of infidelity and rebuild their relationships. But the adulterer first must be ready to do what it takes to earn forgiveness.
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Tell your partner that you are sorry for being unfaithful. Let her know that you were the weak one and that you deeply regret betraying her. Avoid discussing details about the affair in the beginning. Give your partner time to fully absorb the situation first. Do not make excuses for cheating, such as being under the influence of alcohol or drugs. Accept that you made the choice to cheat. If she begins to yell or scream, let her express her anger. Recognize that she has a right to be angry and avoid interrupting her.
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Stop any interaction with the person you cheated with. Don't speak to or see the person again to help regain your partner's trust. Separating yourself from temptation will help your partner see your commitment to your marriage.
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Set common goals. If you both agree you are committed to making your marriage work, you have taken the first step toward becoming partners again. Other common goals include raising your children and planning a future together. If you focus on these goals, you will be reminded of reasons to stay together.
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Attend marriage counseling. A licensed marriage counselor can help you identify the reason you decided to cheat and offer advice on how to rebuild your relationship. Seeking professional help sends the message to your partner that you know you made a mistake and are doing everything you can to save your marriage. According to the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, counseling not only can help couples overcome infidelity, it also can help many marriages become stronger and more intimate.
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