How to Become Closer to a Boy

Being a little mysterious is very attractive to boys.

Any girl who has been in a serious relationship knows that getting to know a boy can be a challenge. The mystery and intrigue of getting to know someone of the opposite gender may be initially intimidating, but guys and girls who are in a relationship are looking for similar things: intimacy, friendship and someone who cares enough to get to know the deepest parts of who they are. Once both parties recognize these similarities, the discovery process becomes much simpler. There are a few simple steps to get to know a boy to whom you want to become closer.

Instructions

1. Spend time just doing things together. You do not always have to have a heart-to-heart conversation to have quality time with a boy. While for girls, the sharing of feelings and revealing of emotions is a vital part of relationship building, men may simply want to be around the women they love, experiencing things with them and spending time in one another's presence. Find out what he likes to do; does he play basketball? Spend time shooting some hoops with him. Is he into the wilderness? Go on a day hike and explore nature. Just being together and living life will bring you closer to the boy you love.

2. Give him his space. While this may seem to be the opposite of getting closer to the boy you admire, giving him his space and living your own life will actually pique his curiosity and make him long to be with you more. Make a point to give him the time he needs to be with his buddies and get everything he needs to get done finished. Furthermore, if he asks you to hang out and you had already arranged a date with the girls, feel free to let him know you have other plans. Not rearranging your life to fit his schedule will give your relationship a good sense of boundaries -- and leave him wanting to get to know you better.

3. Share your heart. When the time is right and you are having a serious conversation, open up to him and let your vulnerability come through. While it may be initially frightening, vulnerability and openness are what form relationships. Letting the boy you love get a glimpse of who you really are is what will build your trust and establish grounds for a deeper connection.

4. Listen. In every area of your relationship, making it a point to truly listen to the boy to whom you are devoted will get you further than almost any other thing you can do. Listening is foundational to every other part of your relationship because communication is vital. If you do not listen to your partner when he tells you what is important to him or what is bothering him, you won't make the necessary adjustments for the well-being of the relationship. Listening will also cause him to feel accepted, which will allow him to open up more.

Tips & Warnings

• Have patience when it comes to getting closer to a boy. Relationships take time, effort and space apart to be built up.

• Do not be overbearing in your attempt to get close to anyone; if you try too hard and become too demanding, he will likely distance himself from you.

References

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