How to Become a Less Demanding Boyfriend
When in relationships, some men have a tendency to "grab the reins" and control the whole relationship without any say from their lover. Being firm in a relationship does have its place, but when an individual becomes too domineering he can become what's commonly known as a "control freak." If you reach this phase or are hovering around it, you need to learn how to become a less demanding boyfriend unless you want to drive your lover away.
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Be romantic. Don't demand sex. Sex can be part of any relationship, but if you demand it on a constant basis it can go from being a positive thing to almost seeming like a chore. Instead of simply demanding it, try being romantic about it instead. If your lover likes to cuddle, then cuddle instead. More than likely, your lover will want to do the deed rather than feel like she is being forced.
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Give your lover her space and privacy. If you start obsessing over who she texts or who she emails and calls, you can go from being something positive in her life to being something negative. She will start to view you as someone she has to check in with, and once again, instead of a lover you become a chore.
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Be thoughtful, just because. Don't make her feel like she owes you. If you do something nice or expensive for her, don't bring it back up later in a conversation and speak of it as if she owes you in return. If you're going to do something sweet or expensive, make sure it's out of the kindness of your heart. Otherwise, you'll end up in the role of "controlling boyfriend."
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Answer her questions. If you've gone somewhere and she wants to know, answer her politely with where you've been. Do not become defensive about your whereabouts. Happy relationships are all about communication.
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Be polite. This is a stand-alone rule that applies to all relationships if you want to have a happy one. If you have a question about where she's been, ask it politely. Do not interrogate her. You will immediately create tension and distrust in your relationship if you do so.
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Tips & Warnings
Remember that not all people are the same. While some women may prefer the things mentioned above, other women may not.
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