How to Say Thank You After a Funeral

Written words can oftentimes express what cannot be expressed verbally.

People really don't expect an elaborate thank-you when a friend or family member loses a loved one. They understand the rigors of informing family and friends of the loved one's death and the often difficult task of making the deceased's funeral arrangements. However, a letter that expresses the family's heartfelt thanks demonstrates to those who offered support, time, funds and other volunteer services to the family that their kindness did not go unnoticed.

Instructions

1. Send a thank you letter to every person who provided some level of support during your time of bereavement. This includes people who sent flowers, cards or food. Also include those who came to the funeral or visited your loved one during their time of illness. For example, "Please allow me to take this opportunity to thank you for being a support to my family and me during our time of bereavement."

2. Say something specific to the person if they were close to the deceased or the family. Thoughts or memories of prior times with the deceased or the family will make the letter more personal and heartfelt. For example, "Jennifer really appreciated you being by her bedside during her entire illness."

3. Close the letter with warm words that once again express the appreciation of you and your family. Based on the person's relationship with the family, you can use phrases such as "with love" for people who were very close to the family. You can also use "with warm regards," "with appreciation," or "sincerely" as a closing statement and sign the letter.

References

• Memorial Keepsakes: Funeral Thank You Letters