How to Be Romantic When You Aren't Romantic

Regular romantic actions can keep a relationship strong.

Being in a relationship can be a mutually enjoyable experience, but when one person doesn't know how to be romantic, it can leave his or her partner feeling unappreciated. With time and effort, even the least romantic people can learn how to show that they care and keep their relationships alive and thriving.

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Instructions

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  Listen to what your partner says and be willing to open up about your own thoughts and feelings. Communication will help you to learn what your partner wants from the relationship and how you can be more demonstrative.
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  Offer your partner spontaneous compliments. Make an effort to notice the little things and be attentive when your mate makes an effort to look nice. A statement as simple as "You look great" can go a very long way.
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  Leave love notes for your partner when you go out. Mention something you enjoyed doing together recently or something that you love about your mate.
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  Cook meals for your partner on a regular basis. Although ordering takeout or cooking your own meals may be easier, eating together gives you a chance to sit down and discuss your day. If you cook the meal from scratch, your partner will take notice and appreciate the extra effort.
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  Show your partner affection when you're together. This can come in the form of small kisses, random hugs or cuddling when watching TV together.
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  Plan and pay for a spontaneous romantic getaway. Book a weekend that you're both free at a nice hotel and plan some activities that you can enjoy as a couple.
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  Help your partner relax after a stressful day. Run a bath and light some candles and incense. Offer a relaxing massage with warm oil after the bath to help ease your mate's mind.
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  Be open to working on problems in the relationship and strengthening your bond as a couple. Your partner will really appreciate your attempts to move forward and make him or her happy.
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  Say "I love you" at least once a day. These words show that you car and can help your partner feel good about your life together.
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  Make time to be intimate with your partner. Without intimacy, a couple may begin to feel more like friends or even just roommates. Lovemaking doesn't always need to be spontaneous, but it should not a chore.

Tips & Warnings

Learn what your partner finds romantic and then repeat the actions on a regular basis.
Do not smother your partner with constant showing of affection. Romance is most appreciated when it is spontaneous and genuine.