When someone is going through the suffering and loss of a loved one, family members and friends naturally want to offer comfort and encouragement. People often turn to the Bible during times of grief, Christians in particular. In attempting to comfort, you may not know the right scriptures to reference from the Word of God. In sharing Bible references with those who lost a love one, there are several that specifically speak to those who are dealing with loss, grief and death.
Things You'll Need
Pray before you share. During prayer, God often reveals the right verses and stories from His Word that will especially minister to your bereaved friend.
Using the concordance in either the back of a Bible or another concordance, such as Strong's, look up the words "grief" or "sorrow" or "death." These key words will help you search out appropriate passages that will help your friend. You can also look up verses online at a website such as biblestudytools.com.
Collect a list of about five to ten scriptures; you don't want to overwhelm your friend with too many. Type or write out the entire passage. If you like, put in a reference, and even add an HTML link (if you know how) which will pull up the verse online. You can then cut and paste the verse to a document in a word program so you don't have to type out the whole passage.
Print out a list of the passages.
Give the list to your friend with a suitable card, a plant, a Christian CD you know he will enjoy, or even a gift card. You can share with him one or two verses if appropriate, but writing the verses out in a list allows your friend to keep them handy for easy access when he needs encouragement. That way, he doesn't need to remember where to find the verse that especially spoke to him. It is often hard to focus and retain information during the time of loss.
Tips & Warnings
- Several favorite passages Christians have used during times of grief include the following: Psalm 23, Psalm 30:5, Isaiah 40: 18-31, Lamentations 3: 31-33, Matthew 5: 4, John 16:33 and II Corinthians 1: 3, 4.
- Avoid trite sayings, such as "God must have wanted another angel in heaven," "I know just how you feel," or "He's better off now." When you don't know what to say, it's better to just listen than say the wrong thing. Even a simple, "I'm so sorry for your loss" can comfort the bereaved. A gentle touch on the arm or shoulder, or a hug, can also encourage those who are grieving.