How to Get a Guy to Commit to a Relationship
While the first flushes of a new romance are always nice, it does not mean it will lead to a serious commitment. Even the most stable of couples will never work if they both have differing views of the seriousness of their relationship. A relationship is never going to move forward unless you both agree to making that commitment. A common sense approach and a change in attitude could be the first positive moves toward getting your boyfriend to commit to you.
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Split the cost of your dates equally. This is especially important in the early stages of your relationship. Establish yourself as an independent woman who is self-sufficient. If he wants to buy you gifts, make sure it is his idea. Constantly expecting him to pick up the bill only gives the impression you are demanding and possibly high maintenance.
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Listen when he talks to you, even if the subject does not interest you. Try not to criticize him or force your opinion into the conversation unless he specifically asks for it. By trusting you with information, no matter how insignificant, he is forming a commitment to you. Everyone appreciates having someone to talk to who will not judge or criticize them.
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Be yourself; don't pretend to be someone you're not because you think he will like you more. If you have different interests, embrace this fact and make a commitment to learn more about what he likes. Pretending to like the same things he does will lead to disappointment later on for you both. He may feel you have misled him, making him question all the good qualities he thought he had discovered in you.
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Arrange time with your friends, and do not complain if he wants to see his friends. A committed relationship does not mean you spend 24 hours together. He is likely to feel suffocated and even trapped if he does not spend time away from you. Allow a healthy relationship to develop by accepting he has other people who mean a lot to him too. When you do see each other, you will have things to talk about and may appreciate each other more.
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Do not use other men to make him jealous. Flirting with the opposite sex in front of him will not push him to commit to you but rather push him away. Everyone, whether male or female, looks for loyalty in a partner, so show him you possess that quality. If you do flirt with other men in front of him, the chances of him committing to you at all are slim. He may even decide to give you a taste of your own medicine and could end up meeting someone else.
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Tips & Warnings
Sharing future plans can be fun, just avoid getting too heavy into the relationship too soon. Talking about marriage, having children and buying a home together can scare some men off, especially early in a relationship.
Do not change yourself to please him. If he expects you to change, then he may not be the right person for you after all.
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