How to Get Her to Say Yes to a First Date

Don't be afraid to approach your dream girl.

Asking a girl out on a date is no small thing. The trick is making it seem like it is. This can be challenging if you are a bit shy but hoping to land the girl of your dreams. While this potentially embarrassing situation should be approached with both care and caution, don't let the odds of a "no" keep you from asking. There are certain steps you can take to help tip the balance in your favor. Your odds of success are greatly increased if you are focused but subtle, confident but not cocky, and smart enough to consider the following advice.

Instructions

1. Go where she is. Wherever your dream girl hangs out is your new favorite location. Be ready to invest some quality time at her favorite mall, museum, library, bookstore, coffee shop or public park. Being in the same place at the same time not only suggests common areas of interest, it give you an opportunity to "run into" her.

2. Observe from a distance -- but not in a creepy, stalker way. Bring a friend, a book or a game to occupy you, if needed, so that you are able to watch, without constantly staring. Make mental notes of what attracts her attention and how she spends her time. If she happens to glance your way, smile and maintain eye contact. This projects confidence and friendliness. If she holds your gaze and smiles in return, approach her immediately. If she looks quickly away, wait a few days longer.

3. Engage her in casual conversation. Approach with a simple "Hi" or offer to help in some small way such as volunteering to carry her books or bags. Do not use a cheesy line. They only sound funny in your head. Use what you have learned by observation to talk about something you know interests her. Do not interrupt her while she is speaking. Look into her eyes while you two are talking, not at any other area of her body. Hold her gaze and smile whenever possible. As you talk, relax your posture and stay calm.

4. Read her body language. If she likes you, she will mirror your movements. She will also touch you in some small way -- a tap on the shoulder, a brush of the hand. Breaking the touch barrier means you are on the right track. If these signs are not evident, you may be stuck in the friend zone for a while, but that's okay, too. The more she gets to know you, the more she will come to like you for who you really are.

5. Suggest an informal date in a public venue. Women are more comfortable in crowds for good reason -- being alone with an unfamiliar man can be dangerous. For example, you could steer the discussion to current movies and which ones sound like they are worth the price of popcorn. When she hits upon one that is not an obvious chick flick, ask her if she'd like to go see it.

6. Accept her answer casually, no matter what it is. Do not overreact. If she says yes, you will feel like the king of the world, but whooping and grinning like an idiot is likely to make her call it off. If she says no, you can always ask again some other time or move on to another potential partner. She is not the only fish in the sea. Besides, acting as if you don't need her may be just what the thing that piques her interest.

References

• eHarmony: Dating Advice - How to Approach a Woman
• Emily Post : The All Important Ask
• Wired : 10 Ways to a Geeky Girls Heart