How to Treat Guys on a Date
The rules of chivalry are drilled into our brains at an early age to ensure that men know how to treat women on dates. But what about the other way around? The actions and manners of a woman toward her date play just as crucial a role in the overall tone of the date, and possibly a future relationship. Dating can be challenging and perhaps even awkward. But regardless of the bitter taste that dating has left in the mouths of some people, it is a necessity for anyone seeking a monogamous relationship. Women can steer their dates in a positive direction with minor courtesies.
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Showing interest in a man's hobbies and lifestyle will indicate that you are attentive and compassionate. Encourage him to share more information about himself. It is a common gender action for women to wait for a man to take control of the conversation. However, there are no rules that say a woman cannot initiate talking points. Asking a man about his interests and life likely will make him feel special and a little more at ease during the date.
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Listen carefully and recap information. For example, if he tells you that his dog's name is Buster, try to mention "Buster" later in the conversation so your date knows you were paying attention. This might be particularly challenging if a man delves into conversation topics that are unfamiliar to most women, such as welding, construction or sports. Remember there is no shame in admitting you are not versed on that topic, but you are interested in having him explain it to you.
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Compliment him. While you were picking an outfit and spending an hour doing your hair, he was probably spending some time on his appearance as well. Commenting on his nice suit or his cologne, for example, will make him feel attractive and wanted.
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Boost his ego. According to the Top Dating Tips website, men need reassurance when it comes to their importance. Modern women are powerful, confident creatures-- so a man who dates a woman of high standing or wealth might feel inferior. Find out about his skills or accomplishments and encourage them.
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Offer to help pay for the meal or activity. In modern society, the gentleman does not always have to take care of the bill. Some people follow the code that whoever asked for the date should pay. Otherwise, propose that you split the bill or at least offer to handle the tip for the server. If things are going really well, you can use this as an opportunity to suggest another date, and offer to pay next time.
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Tips & Warnings
If the date went well, follow up with the man and let him know that you had a nice time.
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