How to End Dating Without Hurting Someone
The proper way to end dating without hurting someone is a common dilemma. There are a few things to use as guides for how and when to tell someone that you want out of a relationship, and a good place to start is with tact and kindness.
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Instructions
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Make arrangements to meet with your boyfriend in person. Tell him that you'd like to see him in person to talk about something.
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Plan what you're going to say in advance. Be ready to give your girlfriend one or two specific reasons why the relationship isn't working for you like: "I don't feel happy in this relationship anymore and I think we'd be better off apart." Avoid cliches like "It's not you, it's me," unless you can share in honest detail what you mean.
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Listen to any venting or angry retorts your boyfriend has. Let him speak uninterrupted, and don't comment on what he says. If he begs you to reconsider, gently tell him "I've enjoyed the time we spent together, but I've made up my mind," and then say good-bye.
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Tips & Warnings
If possible don't end a relationship right before an important celebration, family gathering or other big event.
Use a web cam to end a long-distance relationship.
Personal belongings should be given back or taken with you when you meet. If this is not possible, make arrangements to exchange your belongings in a neutral location.
Don't fall victim to crying, offers for physical favors or the other person trying to make you feel guilty.
Don't present the breakup as temporary, unless it is.
References
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