How to Find a Jewish Husband

Jewish attendance at synagogues increases during holiday services.

Reasons for seeking a Jewish husband include the desire for a Jewish home, to abide by Jewish law to marry a Jew or other personal decisions. However, finding a Jewish husband presents some difficulties due to limited population. Those identifying themselves as Jewish decreased from more than 3 million to less than 2.7 million between 1990 and 2008, according to the U.S. Census Bureau. With a total population of more than 300 million, Jews represent less than 1 percent of people living in the U.S.

Instructions

1. Decide the important characteristics and requirements for a husband, such as age, nationality, income, previous marriages or children, willingness to relocate and religious observations, including kosher and affiliation. Divide the list between essential and desired elements.

2. Tell your family, friends, work associates, social and Jewish organization contacts that you want to find a Jewish husband. State your intentions in order to make them aware and let them know you welcome introductions to available Jewish men. Share your requirements and additional wanted characteristics.

3. Join organizations that contain primarily or a high number of Jews, such as synagogues, civic groups, special interest groups and charities. Contact your local synagogue for lists of local groups and national groups with local or state chapters. Let members of these groups know your interest in finding a husband.

4. Participate in social activities to meet Jewish men, such as cruises, vacations and travel groups for Jewish singles. Contact the Better Business Bureau about companies offering activities prior to making payments.

5. Consider professional dating and matchmaking services. Matchmakers play an important role in Orthodox marriages, according to Rabbi Mordechai Becher. Contact professional Jewish matchmakers operating in major U.S. cities and internationally. Apply to Jewish dating services, such as JDate.com, and general dating services with Jewish applicants.

6. Consider moving to an area with a higher percentage of Jews if you live in an area with a limited population, such as Montana, Idaho, West Virginia, Arkansas and Oklahoma. States with 4 percent or higher Jewish population include New York, New Jersey, Maryland and Massachusetts, according to the U.S. Census Bureau.

7. Join free Jewish social online networks, such as Shmooze and Koolanoo, to meet Jewish men and find contacts to help introduce you to available men. Explore social groups for areas dedicated to singles seeking spouses.

8. Place advertisements in newspapers, particularly in cities with higher Jewish populations, and online dating message boards. Use services that require identification proof and verification of posters.

Tips & Warnings

• Give realistic honest descriptions of yourself and ask a close friend to review your profile before submitting.

• Join only social and civic organizations that interest you in order to find men with similar hobbies or commitments.

• Use precautions, such as meeting in public, informing others of any meetings and protecting private information, while getting to know a stranger.

• Check consumer complaints, ratings and references before joining any organization or paying fees for membership or events.

References

• U.S. Census Bureau: Table 75. Self-Described Religious Identification of Adult Population: 1990 to 2008
• U.S. Census Bureau: Table 77. Christian Church Adherents, 2000, and Jewish Population, 2009 -- States
• Ohr Somayach: The Jewish Wedding Ceremony

Resources

• Jewish Outreach Institute: What Does the Torah Say About Intermarriage?
• Judaism 101: Marriage
• WomensLaw.org: Jewish Get Law (Divorce Law)
• The Lilith Gallery of Toronto: Jewish Intermarriage Statistics
• YourWedding101: Jewish Wedding Traditions