How to Break Up with Your Boyfriend Nicely
Sometimes relationships do not work out in a satisfactory manner for both people. When a relationship is doing more harm than good to either yourself or your partner, it is best to end it. Breaking up, however, can be a difficult thing to do, even when necessary, and can cause as much or more stress than the problems that led to the breakup.
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Tell your boyfriend as soon as possible after making your decision to end the relationship. Delaying on your part will only make the situation worse and create more conflict in the future. There is no right time to break off a relationship.
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Tell him in private if possible. Even the most gentle and amicable of breakups will create strong emotions and reactions. However, if you do not feel entirely safe, or if the reason you are breaking up is related to abuse, it is best to tell him in public.
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Speak clearly and to the point. Explain exactly why you no longer wish to have a relationship. Avoid using clichés such as "It's not you, it's me." These can be annoying and can obscure the real issues behind the breakup. Discuss the issues but do not back down or hesitate. Apologize for having hurt his feelings and answer his questions.
It may take more than one conversation with your boyfriend before he is ready to accept the situation. Be patient, clear and firm.
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If necessary, discuss how the breakup will proceed. If there are things you both own, or if you are living together, take the time to decide who gets what, or who will move out. Set a schedule for when the other person will have to move out, and keep to that schedule.
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Cut off all contact with your ex-boyfriend once everything is decided and arranged. Give the other person (and yourself) some space. If you feel that you are able to remain friends with your boyfriend, wait for him to establish contact with you first.
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Tips & Warnings
Do not offer to be friends with the other person unless you really want to continue the friendship.
Do not argue or return your ex-boyfriend's insults should he make them. Remain civil and polite and don't allow him to change your mind.
Do not break up with him in an e-mail or on a social media site such as Facebook or Twitter. Breaking up requires two-way communication between you and your boyfriend.
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