How to Decline or Cancel an Invitation to a Graduation Party Because of Illness

Be sincere when declining or canceling an invitation to a graduation party.

Declining an invitation to a social event can be challenging and stressful. It's important to remain gracious while also clearly stating your reasons; etiquette is often contingent on the type and scale of the function. Graduation parties, in particular, can run the gamut, but even in the most informal of circumstances, your actions count. If you're feeling under the weather and have already sent your RSVP, act soon to avoid being rude and to demonstrate your concern. Graduation parties mark an important transition in a person's life, so it's crucial to be respectful when declining or canceling.

Instructions

1. Call the person hosting the graduation party. This should be done before or within 24 hours of the party if possible. In some instances, an illness can strike overnight, but it is common courtesy nevertheless to notify the host or hostess as soon as possible.

2. Explain the situation. You don't need to go into too much detail, but it's important to let them know why you are unable to attend and that you are truly sorry.

3. Plan another time to to see them once you're feeling better. Following up lets the host or hostess know that seeing them is important to you and that you would like to acknowledge their accomplishments. A rain check is also an opportune time to give the person their gift if you have not already done so.

4. Write a thank you note if you cannot reschedule. This gesture shows concern for the host or hostess and sends the message that you are sincerely interested in the outcome of the event and their successes.

Tips & Warnings

• Try to notify the host or hostess as soon possible about any illness or change in plans that may prevent you from attending the event.

• Not calling or simply not showing up to the event is offensive and can send the wrong message. The host or hostess may believe you are mad, upset or not interested in attending. Be honest with the person over the phone and let them know you are feeling sick.

References

• Steps to Politely Declining Invitations

Resources

• How to Decline an Invitation and Get Invited Back