Things You'll Need:
- Movie Tickets
- Season Tickets
- Two Bicycle Helmets
- Two Mountain Bikes
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Step 1
Think about whether you are willing to stay together even if he only wants to keep your involvement casual.
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Step 2
Consider the possibility that he is looking for something even more serious than what you have in mind.
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Step 3
Have some idea of what you're looking for before you ask, so that you can stay on task.
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Step 4
Find a special time and place for this important question. Make a date to go somewhere private and comfortable for both of you.
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Step 1
Tell him that you feel really good about the time that you spend together, and that you find yourself growing closer to him.
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Step 2
Find out how he feels about your dating relationship and what direction he sees it taking.
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Step 3
Share your interest in moving from going out together to something more long-term.
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Step 4
Ask him to be your boyfriend, and explain what that means to you and how you believe that would strengthen you as a couple.
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Step 5
Discuss what kind of commitment each of you is ready to make to the other. How will your dating relationship change? Are you agreeing to see each other exclusively, if you aren't already? Will you live together? Do you simply want to acknowledge that you have reached the next stage of the relationship?
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Step 1
Relax in the arms of your new boyfriend, if he accepts.
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Step 2
Give him some time to think about what he wants now if he cannot commit.
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Step 3
Reconsider your needs, and whether they can still be met, if he says that things have been going so well that he doesn't want to risk changing anything.
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Step 4
Be open and honest about your excitement, disappointment or concern related to his response.
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Step 5
Allow for the possibility that either of you might change your mind.
Comments
sunshineandrose said
on 3/8/2009 I agree it is pretty much understood I believe if you and he only go out with each out you are together. Unless he says otherwise.
jcamp2 said
on 3/2/2009 I say...if you feel like you are both on the same page then go for it. Communication is the key weather it's offical or not. That way even if the realtionship dosn't go any where you'll know that you said what you had to say.
NeGaRiNa said
on 1/11/2009 I actually did it twice!!not in the same ways its written here though!!
I just after one month of seeing him, suddenly in one beautifull day jumped into his arm and huged him, and left the crime scene^^, then he wrote me an hour later that he wants to talk to me and hug me back;)
for the other one, I did the hug part in the elevator=), and then when we get out of it we went to a park a kissed each other!!:) and our relationship lasted 3 years!!!( He was the one that used to believe that his dreamy soul mate would be the one who loves him that much that she would dare to tell him;))
Good luck for u all!!
CBPope said
on 11/6/2008 This is so cute. It reminds me of when I was a teenager not so long ago:) Although, I never asked anyone to be my boyfriend.
befree said
on 11/5/2008 I agree with NEVER ask a guy to be your bf, men like to conquer vs be conquered. Being an old fashioned girl, I would not do this anyway and in my experience, the guy does tell you when he wants the relationship to be exclusive. the guy who doesn't want to be exclusive is usually the guy who doesn't call when he says he will