How to Ask Someone to Be Your Girlfriend

Although you may not be ready to get down on one knee and ask for her hand, perhaps it's time to discuss your more immediate future together.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

1. Ask yourself what makes her, and the time you spend together, special.

2. Think about the specific changes you hope will occur in the relationship if she agrees to become your girlfriend.

3. Be clear about what it means to you to have a girlfriend and what your expectations are concerning mutually exclusive dating, living together or other issues that are important to you.

4. Prepare to communicate why you are seeking and offering a bigger commitment to your relationship at this time.

5. Find an intimate setting for your discussion.

6. Let your date know in advance that you want to discuss how each of you is feeling about the other. Be clear so she knows that you don't want to break up - and that you're not proposing marriage yet, either.

7. Make her, and yourself, as comfortable as possible. Encourage her to express her feelings without pressuring her to make a decision.

8. Give her time to reflect on your immediate future.

9. Keep your fingers crossed and your options open.

Tips & Warnings

• Try not to stress out about asking her to be your girlfriend. Although this is an important step, you can still be lighthearted in your approach.
• Do your part to ensure that each of you feels heard, understood and respected no matter what the outcome.
• If she doesn't share your feelings - whether she wanted more or less from your current arrangement - one or both of you may be very disappointed, frustrated or hurt. Give each other time and space to at least remain civil, if not friendly or maybe even friends.

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[andrewschiffer]

on 11/12/2009 Oh ho! I could ask Selena Gomez.

[pipeds]

on 7/11/2009 how about if she already knows that i love her because my friends tell her and keep texting her in a different identity but has been revealed beacause of my FRIENDS...and then again i again ask her bestfriend what she likes to have a gift and give it to her in valentines day in a sunday mass with, maybe a few people around us giving her flowers and the gift that will be given by her bestfriend that came from me, who's watching from a far to know what's her expression...
what will you advice me?

[jjmess]

on 2/1/2008 For more about Valentine's Day why not drop in and visit me and my friends at our love and relationship thread on the forum pages: http://www.ehow.com/community/forums/topic_33827_valentine’s-day:-in-love?-broken-hearted?-alone?-how-do-you-deal?.aspx

[rtheone]

on 12/7/2007 thanks for the tips

[slacker]

on 10/23/2007 DO NOT ASK OUT A ****