How Fathers Can Win Custody
In the past, custody of children usually was awarded to their mothers. Fathers were expected to pay child support and received various visitation rights, based on the circumstances of the divorce. However, according to the U.S. Census Bureau, as of 2002 more than 15 percent of custodial parents were men, and there are innumerable shared-custody arrangements. In order to win custody, men should be able to show that they are capable of caring and supporting their children, and preparation is the key.
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Hire a good family law attorney. Since most custody cases will require you to go to family court, you need a lawyer who is experienced and knowledgeable about the applicable state laws. Seek references from acquaintances and meet with several attorneys until you find one whom you feel will successfully advocate on your behalf.
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Maintain good records. Keep all written correspondence, including emails and text messages, as well as voice messages from all parties, in case you need to provide information to the court. Custody cases are often decided on one person's word, so good documentation may make the difference between success and failure.
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Get your finances in order. Not only will you need money to pay for legal and court costs, but your financial health may be considered if you want sole custody of your child. You will need to prove to the court that you can provide adequately the basic necessities for your child, such as food and shelter.
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Find a balance in your work schedule. Courts will look at the amount of time a parent can spend with his child. It is more likely that the court will give custody to the parent who can spend quality and quantity time with the child than one who regularly works long hours. You should also develop a support system of friends and family whom you can depend on for assistance to show the court that you have help if needed.
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Keep open the doors of communication with the other parent. Although custody cases can be contentious, they need not be. Parents can save time, money and hard feelings if they can come to a custody agreement. If communication is difficult, an unbiased mediator may make the process easier.
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Tips & Warnings
Although parents want the best for their children, the children's opinions should be considered if they are old enough to understand their situation.
