How to Tell If He's Thinking About Committing to You
eHarmony.com says that the top three things that keep men from committing to a woman include her being too available, wanting to rush into a relationship and not knowing what she wants. So what exactly causes men to commit to one woman then? According to Steve Harvey's book "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man" it has to do with how his words line up with his actions. In that case, once you know you're not turning him off, you can find out if you're someone special by looking to see if he means what he says to you.
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Could You Be Turning Him Off Without Even Knowing?
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Find out what turns him off. You can simply ask him or do some kind of activity together, such as a love game or quiz, to find out.
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Examine yourself to make sure your natural personality isn't in direct opposition to what turns him off the most. If you're naturally inquisitive and it turns him off when people ask too many questions, it's probably not a match, because you don't want to change who you are just to get someone to commit to you. However, if it's a flaw such as being late all the time, by all means work on the bad habit in order to give the relationship a fair chance.
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Move on to the next phase of finding out if he could be thinking of committing to you.
How Good Is His Word?
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Write down the last three things he said in regards to where you stand in his life. He might have said things like, "You're so special to me," or "I love when you're around," or "No other girl has a thing on you."
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List at least four things that he has done for each of the three things he has said (the more the better). If he says he loves when you're around but ignores you when you're in a crowd or with friends, it could be a sign that he just told you something you wanted to hear but didn't mean it. If he's saying things just because they sound good, he probably doesn't plan on committing to you. A man will never intentionally hurt someone that he intends to commit to.
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Confront him about where you stand if you find that he's just been saying things without backing them up with his actions. Listen to what he has to say, and then look again for whether or not he proves his word true with actions. If after you've confronted him his words still don't line up with his actions, you might want to move on. If someone thinks you're special, it's simple. If it's too complicated, that could be a sign that he's just not that into you.
On the other hand, if he tells you up front that he's not interested, believe him. It's not the time to make a project out of him to see if you can get him to commit. When a man wants you exclusively, you wont have to make him commit, because he'll take the necessary steps on his own.
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Tips & Warnings
Stay confident if you find that he doesn't want to commit to you. Just because one man doesn't want to commit to you doesn't mean that you'll never meet one who does.
When you do confront him about where you stand, don't be too emotional or stern. Just ask, "Hey, so where do I stand in your life?" Also, give it some time before you do ask. If you've only been dating for a week, it's too soon to ask.
Some men will say things that they also follow through with in action, but still not be considering commitment. In this case, pay attention to things such as how he introduces you to people that he considers closest to him and if there's other women in the picture. After some time, if you're still not sure, move on. You'll most likely know that you're special to him when you actually are.
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