How to Cope With Annoying Relatives

Take time to think about the best way to respond to an annoying relative.

You usually can't choose your relatives and inevitably there will be some who are great company and others who are irritating. You can avoid upsetting the family dynamics by working on coping with difficult relatives. Telling them exactly how annoying they are often isn't a viable option. Instead take a use some tips that seek to help you take control when dealing with annoying relatives.

Instructions

1. Write a list of five good qualities your relative has and look at this list before you meet with him. Focusing on the positive things about him will help you better deal with his faults.

2. Ask a close friend or partner to tell you what annoys her about you. Realizing that you have faults, too, will put the annoying habits of your relatives into perspective. You may find you have something in common.

3. Take 10 deep breaths before reacting to an annoying relative. This will give you time to compose and calm yourself. If his is being irritating on purpose to provoke a reaction, your calm demeanour will soon bore him and he will move on to a more reactive target.

4. Practice giving a calm and relaxed reply in the mirror. Think of polite ways to end a conversation you aren't comfortable with and practice delivering them without sarcasm. This will help you to respond comfortably and appear genuine even in a potentially difficult situation.

5. Schedule time with your annoying relatives when you are feeling mentally and emotionally capable of coping with them. Forcing yourself to visit them when you are already feeling tired or emotional could lead to lapses in your control and make the situation worse.

References

• Quest For Balance: 10 Ways to Remain Calm in a Stressful Situation