How to Find Love & Companionship
Sad to say, finding your soulmate cannot be reduced to a series of concrete steps, as if you were fixing a carburetor or installing software on a computer. However, certain actions and attitudes will greatly increase your chances of attaining true love and meaningful companionship. In order to fulfill these basic human needs, undertake these steps and, moreover, stick with them.
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Work on yourself. The first step to finding true love has more to do with you than it does with your potential soulmate. Ask yourself some basic questions: Do you possess a decent sense of self-esteem? Do you feel comfortable with the opposite sex? Do you have body-image issues? Generally, do you feel comfortable in your own skin? If the answer to any of these questions is "no," try to change it to "yes." Otherwise, even if you have found Mr. or Ms. Right, you will not be in the state of mind to properly court said love interest. Obviously, changing fundamental personality traits is easier said than done. Perfection will take more than a lifetime, but try to make yourself the best person you can be. Be someone that you would want to date.
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Be patient. Finding love and companionship is not like going on a hunting expedition. If you grab the first person within kissing distance, he or she may not turn out to be the companion of your dreams. At the same time, don't be too picky. Singles who carry long checklists of "dealbreakers" (e.g., "my man must be six feet tall and earn $10 million a year") may end up alone at the end of the day.
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Socialize. You won't meet your soulmate if you don't get out there and meet people. For some people, online dating is a decent option. For others, having their friends fix them up with others might work. And, of course, if you don't live in Kabul, visit your local singles' bar. During the searching process, do your best to have fun, whether or not your date turns out to be "the one." A date should not be like a job interview. Even if you are not attracted to whomever you are having dinner with, that doesn't mean that you cannot spend a pleasant evening in the company of a future friend.
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After finding someone who may qualify as a longtime companion, proceed slowly. Don't move in together after your third date. Finding out if someone is truly compatible with your personality and lifestyle often takes months, if not years. On the other hand, don't prolong a relationship unnecessarily. If you don't see a future together, end things sooner than later.
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After a breakup, give yourself some time to recover. A few months should suffice. At that point, repeat from Step 1. You may need to go through these steps multiple times before finding love and companionship, but the goal is worth the stretch.
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