How to Deal With a Marriage Problem

Many marriages experience problems over the years. Poor communication, misunderstandings and a decrease in physical affection are common concerns expressed by spouses. Understanding problems, knowing how and where to get help and committing to resolution promotes healthier marriages. Couples should not be afraid to ask for help when trouble develops, but many wait until it is almost too late to save the marriage. For a healthy marriage, take action before minor issues become major crises.

Instructions

1. Look for potential warning signs in your marriage. Areas of particular concern may include feelings of isolation and loneliness, a drop in physical affection or a lack of communication.

2. Admit you have problems. Many couples deny they have problems and try to bury hurt or bitter feelings, but this can lead to resentment. Communicate openly and honestly with each other about areas of frustration and disappointment.

3. Schedule an appointment with a marriage counselor. Couples do not have to be in a major crisis to get an outside perspective. Ask close friends, a pastor or family member for referrals to effective marriage counselors.

4. Attend a marriage intensive, which brings couples together in a retreat setting for counseling and other marriage-building activities. Research organizations in your area that offer this type of program.

Tips & Warnings

• Spend proactive time together as a couple enjoying activities of shared interest.

References

• Marriage and Family Counseling: The Four Warning Signs of Marriage Problems
• National Institute of Marriage
• Way2Hope.org: Trust Issues in Relationships

Resources

• The Family and Marriage Counseling Directory