How to Word Condolence Cards

When a friend of family member loses a loved one, it is a very difficult time emotionally. One way that you can comfort him is by writing a condolence card. A hand-written condolence card shows the recipient how much you care by taking the time to express your sympathy. A condolence card is very personal and there is no one "correct" way to write it. With careful thought, however, you can express your condolences in a heartfelt way.

Instructions

1. Begin your card with a salutation. The traditional salutations of "Dear John" or "Dear Mary" are appropriate.

2. State how you feel about the passing of the deceased. Keep this simple and honest. For example, "I am sorry to hear about Peter's passing," or "Carol and I were saddened to hear about the loss of Martha."

3. Write something nice, heartwarming, funny or sentimental about the person. This can be a short anecdote, a shared memory or a characteristic of the person. For example, "One of my favorite childhood memories was going fishing with Uncle Joe. I remember how excited he was when you caught your first fish."

4. Offer to help your friend or family member in her time of need. Do not make a blanket offer to "help," but be specific about the help you are willing to provide. For example, "Please allow me to bring you dinner this week."

5. Add a closing to your card. The standard closings, such as "Love," or "Sincerely," are appropriate. You can also say "With sympathy," "With condolences," or "With thoughts and prayers."

References

• Comfort & Grace
• Estate Settlement: How to Write a Condolence Letter

Resources

• Read this Article in Spanish