How Do I Make Friends & Build Relationships With Adults?

Life can be lonely when you move to a new place.

It is not always easy to make friends. Many people find particular situations difficult. These include moving to a new school, area or job. Some people are naturally more reserved. They prefer to get to know a new person gradually, and perhaps to have a few good friends rather than lots of casual acquaintances. Most people do, however, find friendships enriching and life-enhancing There are techniques to help shy people make friends even in difficult or new circumstances.

Instructions

Approach

1. 

   Most people appreciate someone who listens.

   Develop good listening skills. Most people appreciate someone who really listens to them. Smile and make appropriate eye-contact with others.

2. Accept social invitations, even if your instinct is to refuse. Pursue your interests by joining a group that revolves around your interests. It is easier to befriend people who share your interests.

3. Focus your attention on the other person, by looking at her, smiling and nodding appropriately when she speaks. Maintain appropriate eye-contact--not staring or looking away. Adopt an open body posture.

4. 

   Sometimes friends have to be tolerant to each other.

   Accept that you will not get along with everyone, and do not think of this as failure or rejection. Build and strengthen existing relationships. Make the effort to keep in touch. Accept your friends for who they are, even if you disagree with some of their decisions.

5. Avoid talking disrespectfully to one friend about another, as this gives an instant impression that you cannot be trusted. Be the sort of friend you would like to have. Show generosity to friends, giving help and time. Much of friendship is reciprocal, and your friends should support you also when you need it. Learn how to see the funny side of life, as most people like to be in the company of someone who cheers them up.

Tips & Warnings

• Learn to value your friendships as much as other relationships in your life.

• Do not substitute online friends for actual friends.

References

• Center for Young women's Health: Health Information for teen girls around the world
• laterlife.com: Making new friends in later life