How Do I Trust Again after Five Years of Divorce?
Learning how to trust after divorce can feel like an uphill battle. There are psychological and mental issues that must be addressed, and there are several avenues to explore to get yourself to the point where you can trust five years after your divorce. Talking to a professional, reconnecting with old friends and exploring some personal goals can help you begin to open up and perhaps help you find a new life partner for a loving, trusting relationship.
Instructions
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Find a therapist in your neighborhood to whom you can talk. Consider specialists who deal specifically with divorce and post-divorce counseling. Make an appointment and use your sessions to explore your trepidations and fears about dating again.
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Reconnect with old friends, particularly those with whom you have a trusting relationship. Go out for coffee or to a movie with friends and let them know you're thinking about dating again, sharing with them your concerns about entering into a new relationship. Let them know you need their support.
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Purchase some self-help books on the subject of coping with the side effects of divorce, which you should be able to find at your local bookstore. Read the books to gain some insight on what keeps divorced persons from trusting others.
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Write down a list of personal goals, paying attention to things you've always wanted to try, but may have overlooked until now. Write down things like learning to play the piano, taking French lessons or visiting the beach. Skim the list and see what goals you can tackle today that will help build your confidence.
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Begin dating slowly. Ask your friends if there is anyone they think you may be compatible with who they would like to set you up with. Go on some initial dates with a few different people, keeping in mind that you're not necessarily looking for a serious relationship right away, but that you're building up trust skills for now.
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Tips & Warnings
When you begin dating someone new, be honest about your concerns, but don't put too much pressure on yourself or your date.
Don't rush yourself, take everything in baby steps if you have to.
References
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