How to Start and Sustain a Relationship With a Guy

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Developing and sustaining a new relationship with a man can be exhilarating or frustrating. Women bring added stress to their lives by wondering if their next date could be their soulmate. By doing so, women scare off men with questions and unnecessary pressure to move on to the “next step.” Every romantic relationship will eventually end unless marriage or a lifelong commitment becomes a possibility, so remember these tips to starting a sustaining a relationship with a guy.

Instructions

1. Capture his attention. Upon arriving at your destination, consciously make a visual sweep of the room. This will let you see whose company you are in. When you see Mr. Right from afar, keep an eye on him. When he looks your way, make eye contact that lasts a few seconds. This will make him aware that you are present and will keep him thinking about those baby blues…or greens, or browns.

2. Ask questions about him on the first date. Get to know him and take a genuine interest in his life. Avoid divulging to much information on the first date such as your dream wedding plans and the number of kids you want, unless he asks. By all means, be yourself, but remember that in some cases, less is more.

3. Allow him to initiate the important “firsts” such as saying he loves you, meeting his parents, or even moving in. These are very large commitments and letting the man instigate it allows him to feel comfortable with the pace at which your relationship is proceeding. If you feel as though you are falling in love, talk with your girlfriends or write your feelings in a journal. When he drops the L-bomb, you can reciprocate.

4. Avoid overly questioning him about his feelings on you and the relationship. Men do not respond well to pressure about where their new relationship is headed, so be spontaneous and allow your relationship to progress freely.

5. Do not be jealous. If your man is handsome, he will attract the attention of other females. Instead of interrogating him about his involvement or lack thereof with a woman who seems to admire him, take her comments as compliments.

6. Trust him. Do not assume that he is partaking in events that could end your relationship simply because you are not there to chaperone his night out with the guys. Avoid calling his cell phone repeatedly until he answers and do not accidentally run into him at the restaurant where he is having dinner with the guys.

7. Give him space. Allow him to have a life outside of your relationship. He needs time to recuperate from work by playing a game of basketball with his friends just as you need to vent about him, your period or your career to your girlfriends. Remember to enjoy your own separate life. After all, you did have one before you met him.

Tips & Warnings

• Know the qualities you are looking for in an ideal mate. This could save you both time and heartache.

• Be cautious about meeting a new man in a strange place where you are alone. Carry some form of protection, such as mace on your key chain.

References

• Dating Advice for Women: Why Affection Can Make A Man “Pull Away”