How to Approach a Married Woman

Not all brides are equally bound to their partners.

Approaching a married woman for the purpose of starting a romantic or intimate relationship with her is an exciting and potentially dangerous endeavor. Given the high rate of divorce, though, scoring a married woman is not as unrealistic of a goal as many think. While there is no short supply of single women to pursue for romance or intimacy you may find the object of your attraction is wearing a wedding band. Having a game plan increases your odds of success.

Instructions

Conquer Her with Communication

1. If lack of communication is the number one cause of divorce, giving her what she is missing is an on-target strategy. Approach with your eyes and ears first. Listen to her pronouns when she speaks of her home and personal life. Talk of "I" and "me" carries connotations of silence and loneliness, while talk of "we" and "us" resonates a connectedness that is harder to overcome. Watch her facial expression when she talks about her family. Talking about her children only and omitting any references to her husband may indicate a willingness to stray.

2. Tell her the truth. Women are constantly bombarded by lies, flattery and exaggeration. Observe something you appreciate about her and be a mirror that allows her to see herself as she really is. Keep any verbal commitments you make to her. Do not over-promise or overstate your interest or feelings. Tell her that you very much like what you see in her and want to know her more. Neither avoid nor dwell on talk of her present marital relationship. Let her deal with what to do about her status.

3. Let touching reflect your level of friendship and intimacy. Shake hands, hug, put your hand on her shoulder and make eye contact to measure her response. If she draws back or does not feel comfortable with the contact just smile and say something like "That's okay." Do not rush or push her into physical intimacy. Let her send signs that she desires more contact.

4. Seek opportunities to see her at group-level activities where her husband could come if she invited him. If she chooses to come alone this is a good sign of her desire to disconnect. Company parties, industry conferences, shows and happy hours provide time for socializing.

5. Play the role of an interested friend carefully monitoring her situation and listening and watching for clues that she desires something more.

Tips & Warnings

• Avoid going to her house even if the husband is supposed to be away for the weekend. Too many people have been discovered and trapped by the evidence left behind.

References

• Flirting With a Married Woman
• I Love India: How to Seduce a Woman