How to Break Up Peacefully

If you're ready to end a relationship, consider how you can break up without conflict.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Greeting Cards
• Facial Tissues
• Spiral Notebooks
• Writing Pens

1. Acknowledge that the relationship is really over. Come to terms with your own feelings and make a firm decision to end the relationship.

2. Don't delay the inevitable. Once you decide to break up with your partner, immediately think about how, when and where you will take action.

3. Make sure you're the one who personally delivers the news. Don't give a third party the opportunity to tell your partner that you want to break up before you have the chance to discuss the matter alone.

4. Select a private place to meet with your partner to end the relationship.

5. Find or schedule an appropriate time. Approach the topic when both of you are calm and rational. Don't announce your intention to break up during a heated argument or a moment of anger.

6. Show your resolve by being firm, decisive and honest. Help your partner understand why you want to end the relationship. Be tactful, not brutal.

7. Remind your partner that you'll never forget the positive qualities in your relationship, but emphasize that you're ready to move on with your life.

8. Give your partner the closure that he or she needs to accept the breakup; answer questions and talk it over instead of leaving loose ends.

9. Stay positive as you both make plans to go your separate ways.

Tips & Warnings

• Let go of old grievances during a breakup. The end of a relationship isn't the appropriate time to bring up old grudges.
• If your partner does not agree to the breakup, don't allow him or her to manipulate you into staying in the relationship.

[ally18]

on 8/20/2009 Thanks for the great tips. How about breaking up over email? Is that considered inappropriate?

[tov0806pre]

on 8/6/2009 great information!

[cherry668]

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[sarah954]

on 6/20/2009 i think that this would be an ideal way to break up but highly unlikely unless the person being dumped is a total push over. often the dumpee is desperate to change the dumper's mind and so a rational conversation is completely out of the question sometimes. when should you just quite talking and walk away?

[bharatkushwaha]

on 5/12/2009 It's totally illogical that one can be friends after a breakup. As said in pt.1 that we need to acknowledge that the relationship is really over and we should not think of it any more. Being friends will moreover hurt ones feeling rather than working as a cure.