How to Deal With a Pastor's Divorce
When our spiritual leaders encounter adversity or tragedy it is painful for the congregation. Pastoral divorce may make us feel sad or angry, or to question our faith. A pastor's unique position in the life of Christian believers can lead some to expect the pastor to live up to higher standards than we ourselves do. Pastors are thought of as counselors, not people in need of counseling. If your pastor is coping with divorce you can give comfort and love during this difficult time.
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Instructions
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Confirm to the pastor and his family members your love and acceptance. Let them know that you do not expect them to be perfect people and that you are committed to them. Besides kind words, send flowers or cards of encouragement.
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Pray for your pastor and her family regularly. In your prayer time, talk to God about how you feel and what you are experiencing. Ask God to help the pastor during the transition.
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Offer to babysit the the pastor's children from time to time. This will allow him and his wife to manage their break-up without the children present. Sometimes helping others and feeling useful is good therapy for ourselves.
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Visit a Christian counselor regularly. Talk to someone who is not in your pastor's circle of friends. Visit a credible, impartial counselor who will listen without bias.
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Allow yourself to experience the feelings that come with a pastor's divorce. Feelings of anger, betrayal and distrust are common. Work through each emotion with the help of your counselor, Bible and prayer time.
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Tips & Warnings
Avoid talking openly about the divorce to weaker members of the church. This may burden them more.
References
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