How to Word a Sympathy Card for an Infant

Sending a sympathy card is one way to show how much you care.

Losing a child is one of the most excruciating experiences that a parent can ever go through. When a friend or family member has lost an infant, it is appropriate to send a sympathy card, as well as to visit in person after some time has passed. It can be difficult to find exactly the right thing to say in a sympathy card for this occasion without seeming trite or unfeeling.

Instructions

1. Use the name of the child in the message. It is likely that the parents gave the infant a name and that they will appreciate the fact that you remembered it. For example, "We are so sorry for the loss of your daughter, Emma."

2. Say something positive about the infant or the parents, such as "You were always so happy when you talked about your Jane." Do not write about yourself, such as "I always though Timmy was so cute."

3. Ask what you can do to help. If the family is close to you, tell them that you would be happy to babysit other children or help with some cooking or cleaning around the house, so they can have some time to themselves. Be sure to leave your phone number at the bottom of the card.

4. Sign the card using your first name and telephone number. Be sure to write neatly and legibly, so the parents can read what you have written and know that you are thinking of them.

Tips & Warnings

• Do not reflect philosophically with statements such as "At least you're still young enough to have other children." This can be a very hurtful statement and may make the parents feel as though you are belittling their pain.

References

• Simple Sympathy: Words of Sympathy for the Loss of a Child