How to Turn Down a Second Date

If you aren't interested in a second date, don't pretend differently.

In the world of dating, you will experience first dates you definitely don't want to repeat. However, if the other person involved enjoyed your time together, he may ask you on a second date. This leaves you wondering how to turn him down. The best course of action is to be as straightforward as possible so he will get the message that there will be no second date. Consequently, you won't have to worry about him contacting you again.

Instructions

1. Tell him, "Thanks for asking, but I am no longer available."

2. State, "I'd like to just leave it at that, thanks," if she persists in asking you for a specific reason why you are not available.

3. End the conversation as quickly as possible to avoid any more questions. The longer you are engaged in conversation, the more likely you are to something you may regret.

Tips & Warnings

• Don't feel bad about not offering a specific explanation for turning down a second date. The person should get the message once you say you are unavailable.

• Avoid turning down a second date by saying: "Let's just be friends." The only time you should suggest this is if you truly believe it would work out, such as if you have strong common interests.

References

• "The Surrendered Single: A Practical Guide to Attracting and Marrying the Man Who's Right for You"; Laura Doyle; 2002