How to Write a Speech for a Funeral

Being asked to speak at a funeral causes us to face our grief over loss and fear of public speaking.

Funerals can be characterized by deep sadness but also relief that suffering has ended for the deceased. To complicate the grief endured, persons asked to speak must also address the nervousness and fear that accompanies speaking in front of a large crowd. The two most common concerns are that you may only have a short time to prepare your speech and that you are likely to be emotionally drained. Following a few guidelines may be helpful.

Things You'll Need

• Lyrics to a favorite song
• Favorite poem
• Scripture or inspirational reading
• Personal humorous stories

Instructions

Preparing to Write Your Speech

1. 

   Photo albums can bring a lot of emotions and memories to the surface

   Take some quiet time to reflect before you write your speech. Write down your thoughts in list form and think about what the person meant to you and the extended family and friends

2. 

   Shared memories help people celebrate the life and influence of the deceased.

   Write a brief life story. These kinds of speeches often reveal sides to the departed that were not largely known by all. Create a tribute that brings out the highlights or accomplishments in the departed's life. For guidance, look at obituaries in the newspaper. Offer shared memories that give personal insight not only into the life of the deceased, but more to the memories that many in your audience shared about them.

3. 

   Favorite poems, scripture, or song lyrics can be very meaningful in your speech.

   One of the most meaningful components of your speech can be to read the lyrics of a favorite song, poem, or scripture, if the deceased was a person of faith. Then talk about the person's legacy and what they have left behind such as children, influenced lives, or major volunteer work accomplished.

4. Remember that a little humor can provide much needed relief during a funeral service. Do not be self-conscious about laughing and making others laugh during your funeral speech. The combination of laughter and tears helps you and your audience to relax as you remember the person fondly and laugh a bit about funny things they said or did when still alive.

Deliver Your Speech

1. It is a myth that you need to memorize your funeral speech. Write it all down. Read from your speech and do not try to talk off the top of your head.

2. Practice your speech. Rehearsing your speech is paramount and you should practice aloud at least four times. One of these should be in front of a few members of the family or some friends. If you can put in the rehearsal time, your speech will get much better. You will also have the opportunity to correct any mistakes and get feedback before delivering it at the funeral.

3. Have someone on hand to take over if you break down emotionally. It could be a family member, a friend or even the minister.

4. Don't worry if you become emotional. Chances are that you will. This is normal at a funeral. Much of the audience will be in tears. They won't mind if you are, too. End your speech by wishing the family well and encouraging them toward brighter days in the future.

Tips & Warnings

• Make a second copy of your speech and give it to your backup person in case you become overwhelmed and are unable to speak.

References

• Public Speaking Solutions
• Free Online Library