How To Do Just About Everything
By eHow Relationships & Family Editor
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Whether you're the one doing the dumping or the one getting dumped, breaking up is always hard to do. Although you might feel as if you'll never get over this, you will.
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Comments
Anonymous said
on 3/27/2006 If you were dumped for no good reason, the dumper will most likely realize their mistake in time. First, cry your eyes out, but then yell yourself that they will regret it. At the same time concentrate on keeping busy with friends, families and classes. Telling yourself they will regret it will build your confidence rather then self pity, and the worst that can happen is they wont regret it, but by then you'll be over it!
hafizisa said
on 11/5/2007 hmm. i just broke up for about two weeks now. still cant believe i had broken up wit my gf for 5 yrs. wow..imagine that man, 5 years if ur married u could get a 2nd child maybe(depends heh). i just cant believe that shed move on , n now she been seeing this new guy, i was thinking, wow.,so soon 2 get a new one huh? i just cant forget her. cant believe that she'd move on. our r/ship is not tht love is not enough but love itself aint enough. like stability in career,financial , etc. im younger by 2 years than her. she's a houseman in a local hospital,n me? im still a full time student doing some freelance. she feels insecure n uncertain bout the future. im her 1st n vice versa. it aint easy to let go. even if i try 2 nt to think of her, i still thinks of her. why? why? why? coz im so used to her, everyday for the past 5 years. its a mutual breakup though. i feel i really want her back, bu
chirpee said
on 1/23/2007 Do not call him - ever, at all. Keep your head up, let go, move forward. Take care of yourself. Even it takes a minute at a time to get through the day, do not call him. If he wanted to talk to you, he would have called you. You would only feel worse for calling, remember. Stay healthy and think of yourself and keep your self-respect.
Anonymous said
on 8/8/2006 When the sadness begins to fade, it's time to remember the crap that you endured and let outrage take it's place. I went through misery wondering how I'd ever be able to let go and cut communication until I remembered the lies, (he claimed to be single but was actually living with someone) the disappointments, the many times I couldn't get hold of him. Then I remembered that I had been honest with him; never cheated; was available to talk at any hour of the day or night and was a great friend when he sorely needed one. That's when I was able to switch off my phone and say, "I'm moving on, I owe him nothing."
Anonymous said
on 2/25/2006 The first few days are gut-wrenching. I couldn't eat or sleep for 4 days. I was a walking nightmare. I didn't realize it was OK to call in sick to work (I made it half-days for 2 days). Accept that other people care about your feelings and will encourage you to take time to grieve. I didn't understand the importance of grieving at first. Cry when you need to, and find a good friend to talk to. A good friend that knew the other person, and can give you an objective, supportive perspective but also remind you of the not-so-perfect moments.
I bookmarked this eHow website page and read it every day for the first few days. Also read "It's Called a Break-Up because it's Broken" by Greg Berendht. Stay as busy as you can, but be careful when driving. It's easy to get distracted in your thoughts. I did $1500 worth of damage just trying to park while completely numb. Double ouch in addition to the heartache.
Also cathartic; write a list of highlights and lowlights of your relationship. Don't just include the facts. Include the feelings. How did that highlight make you feel, that first time "x" happened or how did it make you feel that time when he/she made you mad, or first hurt your feelings. Do not send it. Just keep it for yourself. Read it every day until you don't need to anymore. Warning - it will make you cry - especially the wonderful highlights. But, then the more lowlights you remember and write down, it will become angering. Once you pass through the anger phase, it's easier to see the light.
I'm 2 weeks into my heartbreak and each day is easier. I have not contacted my ex. Yes, it's been hard, but honestly, what could I say? There's nothing I can say to change his feelings. I am meeting his roommate next week to give back the stuff of his that I had. There will be no bitterness or sadness displayed to the roommate, as I have thrown myself into working out more, working toward a new goal for myself, and joining a civic organization to get involved with my community. I want to shine and work hard to moving on. If the ex wants to be a part of my life (as he claimed through tears the night of the breakup) then he knows how to contact me.
Remind yourself that you are wonderful. Sometimes people's feelings change or just never develop. It does feel bad to hear that, but remember you have a lot to offer someone. I know it's hard to meet good people, and it took me 4 years to meet someone wonderful, but I can only have hope that it can happen again. For me, and for you!