How to Handle a Breakup

Whether you're the one doing the dumping or the one getting dumped, breaking up is always hard to do. Although you might feel as if you'll never get over this, you will.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Stress Relief Products
• Aromatherapy Gift Set
• CDs
• Gym Membership
• Movie Tickets

1. Call all of your friends - even the ones you may have ignored during your recent relationship - and make plans immediately. Now is not a good time to be alone.

2. Vent when the need arises. Good friends will let you take out the photo album (again) and cry (again) and rant (again) - and they'll still love you.

3. Allow yourself time to grieve. If you don't let yourself wallow in self-pity for a while and mourn the good times lost, your heart may harden to future relationships and love.

4. Realize that this sadness will pass.

5. Distract yourself with fun once you're tired of mourning. Movies, group sports, classes or a favorite CD can help get your mind off your loss.

6. Indulge yourself when you're feeling lonely. Try a massage, a weekend trip away with a best friend, a great new outfit - whatever helps you feel good about yourself.

7. Begin dating again when you're ready. Have friends set you up, and go to all those parties you might otherwise skip.

8. Analyze what went wrong in the relationship only after you have rebuilt your self-esteem. If you attempt to do this too soon, you're headed for another downward spiral.

9. Remember the good aspects of the relationship (there must have been some), and then get excited about the new direction your life is suddenly taking. Change can be awesome!

Tips & Warnings

• Keep in mind that clean breaks are generally better than those minibreaks or sort-of breakups that are a bit easier to deal with at the time. Upon breaking up, attempt to resolve lingering issues, then take some time away from each other, even if you intend to remain friends.
• Never sleep with an ex unless you like to torture yourself.
• While you're upset, don't do anything you'll regret later. The transition back into single life is a highly vulnerable time. Get support from your friends.

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[naomismith]

on 10/26/2009 I have been going out with my boyfriend for 21 months now,we had a split up after 14 months because we were always arguing. We got back together, it took time to get back into the swing of things but it worked out in the end. We then started arguing alot again over silly things and sometimes the things are not even relevant. We broke up again as I walked out of his house and he didnt come after me,he says the reason he didnt come after me was because I wouldnt of came back anyway and that we would of argued even more,which i can understand but it made me feel like he didnt love me. It has been 2 weeks since we split up but he then spoke 2 me on facebook and started telling me he still loves me and basically saying he would want to be with me again. He also thought I was seeing someone else as I wasnt so i do not know where he got that from, this made me think is he just wanting me so...

[confusednsad]

on 10/20/2009 So a bit confused as my ex broke off with me 3 months ago and started to see somebody else and is supposedly married not sure on that one but yet he is calling me everyday and has started to call me pumpkin again. Does anybody think I might still have a chance with this guy and if so how can I get him back.

[cherry668]

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[dennise58]

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[dbrodski]

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