How to Chat Up a Guy If You Are Really Shy
Being a shy person can hinder you in social situations. A shy person tends to stay away from active, animated conversation and float in the background, content to watch others interact. While people-watching is a good skill to acquire, even the shyest person should bolster her social skills. Whether in the workforce or in everyday life, having self confidence and being able to lead a conversation is key. Shyness can take its toll when a woman is faced with talking to a guy she likes. By practicing self confidence and engaging in social interactions, you can carry on a conversation with the opposite gender with relative ease.
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Chat Up a Guy If You Are Shy
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See if he will make the first move. Sometimes it can help break the ice if the other person is the first to speak up and offer a topic of choice. Don't be afraid to catch his eye and smile, to show you are interested in initiating conversation.
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Relax your body language. If your back is straight, shoulders are stiff and eyes are averted, you are showing that you are not interested in conversation. Relax your spine, roll your shoulders, and look at the people who are talking to you, or the ones you are interested in initiating conversation with.
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Pick a general topic that you are confident in talking about. Small talk is good but can quickly lead to dead space in the conversation. By selecting a topic you are comfortable with, you can carry on the conversation without having to think too hard about talking, and you will also appear confident in your knowledge of the subject.
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Hang with a group of friends. In a group setting it is a lot easier to casually approach someone and initiate contact rather than trying to approach him singly. A group atmosphere lends a relaxed setting and an excellent opportunity to mingle, as well as having your friends lend some moral support.
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Continue to work on your social skills. Even if you feel like your first interaction with the guy was not to your satisfaction, it doesn't mean you won't get to talk to him again. Practice talking to people and get feedback on your interactions. If you are blown off, don't sweat it. The person that doesn't take the time to know you isn't the person you want to invest a lot of time in.
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