How to Comfort a Friend After a Breakup

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Sometimes the steadiness of friendship is the best remedy for the ups and downs of the romance roller coaster. Here are some tips for helping out a friend in need.

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Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

Stress Relief Products
Fresh-cut Flowers
Picnic Basket
Picnic Blankets
Boxes Of Chocolates
Comfort Food
Facial Tissues
Concert Tickets
Dinner Reservations
Facial Gift Certificates
Massage Gift Certificates
Museum Tickets
Travel Services
Games

Step 1

Spend time with your friend, ideally in person.
Step 2

Let your friend talk. If he or she is not talking, encourage it. Keep lots of tissues handy.
Step 3

Try distractions. Movies, sightseeing, outdoor activities and games are good possibilities.
Step 4

Indulge your friend with chocolates, massages, facials, shopping sprees - whatever lets him or her concentrate on pleasure instead of pain.
Step 5

Send a card to lift your friend's spirits if you can't be there in person.
Step 6

Be patient. Some things take a long time to get over.

Tips & Warnings

Even if you think the breakup was your friend's fault, now is not the time to say so.
Avoid such phrases as, "There are other fish in the sea." These comments won't be helpful.
Be careful not to bash the ex too much. That kind of talk may make your friend distrust his or her own judgment, or distrust yours.

Comments

graywizard said

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on 7/23/2009 Try a good re-frame such as "he had fine wine which costs more but he chose cheap beer" for someone who's ex has moved on to someone else.

ynohtna said

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ryan2 said

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on 5/11/2009 Thanks for this great informative article !

ecm1980 said

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on 5/5/2009 Great advice! I especially like what you said about "Even if you think the breakup was your friend's fault, now is not the time to say so." Very true.