How to Survive When Your Partner Suffers an Addiction Crisis

If your partner hits rock bottom with drugs, you may be faced with multiple challenges.

People who are addicted to drugs or alcohol may reach a critical point in their lives where they self-destruct and hit the proverbial rock bottom. If you are in a committed relationship with someone who suffers an addiction crisis, you will probably be faced with numerous challenges involving major aspects of your life. In the aftermath of a terrible situation involving your spouse or partner and drugs or alcohol, you can learn to take care of urgent needs, tackle one life area at a time and regain focus on your own well-being.

Things You'll Need

• Place to stay, if necessary

Instructions

1. Protect yourself and children. Though you cannot control the one with the substance-abuse problem, you must take care of yourself and your children. Find a safe and supportive place if you cannot stay in your home.

2. Get as much information as you can. Downward spirals in addiction often happen with a bang. Police, accidents, arrests, infidelity and major debt may become revealed as the situation evolves.

3. Set boundaries. Codependency on an alcoholic or drug addict can increase feelings of guilt and shame and foster enabling of a serious problem. Realize that you cannot fix your partner. He must admit he has a problem and take responsibility for his own life.

4. Remember to take things one day at a time. Each new day brings an opportunity to heal your life and resolve challenges. Seek professional or self-help support if necessary. Go to counseling, attend Al-Anon meetings and see your doctor, especially if infidelity is a factor.

5. Tend to your emotional and spiritual needs. Any sort of loss, even loss of trust, can elicit emotional denial, anger and depression. Allow yourself to grieve and process any emotions that arise. When you are at a point of stability, refocus on optimism, compassionate detachment, healthy actions and spiritual renewal.

Tips & Warnings

• If family or friends offer their support, allow yourself to receive during this time. You may need all the help you can get.

• This article is for informational purposes only. If you or a loved one is concerned about mental, emotional, physical or spiritual well-being, please consult your physician or counselor.

References

• WebMD
• Al-Anon

Resources

• Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration