How to Overcome Personal Conflict
Conflict between two people can arise for a number of reasons. All of us have different views and ways of going about life based on our beliefs and life experiences. Several different communication strategies may help you to overcome interpersonal conflict and reach a harmonious resolution.
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Honestly communicate your wants with the other person, the Duncum Center for Conflict Resolution advises. While this might seem obvious, people too often presume to know the thoughts and motivations of others and assume that their own thoughts and motivations are apparent. Communicating honestly can help dispel inaccurate assumptions and help you understand the other person.
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Take time to truly figure out what is bothering you before confronting the person with whom you have conflict, recommends Nan Peck, associate professor of speech communication for Northern Virginia Community College in Annandale, Virginia. While opening the lines of communication can serve as a starting point for resolution, it can turn futile if you go into it without a clear idea of what you hope to achieve.
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Clearly define the nature of the relationship and what you expect from each other, the Duncum Center suggests.
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Fight fair, says Peck. Keep to the issue at hand. Do not administer personal attacks and do not dwell on things irrelevant to the issue. Do not involve other people that have nothing to do with the problem. Do not embarrass the other person by discussing your problems in front of others.
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Consider seeking outside assistance. While it might be hard to share what is going on with another person, an impartial third party can sometimes give a new perspective. This could be a counselor, a religious figure---such as a priest or rabbi---or a trusted friend or co-worker.
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