How to Initiate a Conversation With a Girl
For some guys, initiating a conversation with a girl is effortless; for other guys, the thought of doing so is an anxiety-provoking nightmare. With the proper approach and the right attitude, approaching a girl for a conversation doesn't have to be such a scary task. Remember that she, like you, is only human. Just as you appreciate when others converse with you in a friendly and respectful manner, so does she.
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Make a quick mental note of the situation and her surroundings to gather ideas for conversation topics. Observe her clothing, accessories, anything she has in her hands and the environment that surrounds her. You'll feel more confident about talking to her if you have a few ideas for topics to bring up -- such as a unique piece of jewelry you couldn't help but notice she was wearing or her opinion of the band that played earlier that day -- to keep awkward silences from arising.
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Approach her promptly. The longer you stand around contemplating your first move, the more you will psych yourself out. Don't allow yourself to get too nervous to walk up to her. Instead, the moment you see a girl with whom you would like to have a conversation, stand tall and walk confidently toward her.
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Skip the unoriginal or sexually charged pickup lines. Few girls will be impressed by a guy who approaches them with "I lost my number and was wondering if you would give me yours," or worse, an overtly sexual remark right from the start. Many girls may even become insulted and will write you off as a creep to be avoided. Instead, treat the conversation as you would any conversation with any other human being. Be sincere and be yourself. If she likes who you are as a person, she'll respond favorably. If she doesn't, you don't want to talk to her anyhow.
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Put on a friendly smile and be non-threatening in your approach. The goal is to have a conversation with her, not to scare her, so respect her boundaries. To avoid startling her, don't walk up to her at too quick a pace, and try to make her aware of your presence by catching her eye from a distance before you approach her. If she seems frightened, back off and try at another time when more people are around so she will not feel threatened.
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Ask open-ended questions to keep the conversation flowing. Try to avoid questions that require only "yes" or "no" for an answer -- these tend to bring conversation to a dead stop.
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