How to tell if your husband cheats like Tiger Woods
Did the whole Tiger Woods scandal make you think about your husband? Are you suspicious that he may be cheating? Does he seem to care more about how people view him (his image) than about reality? If so, your husband may have the same problems Tiger Woods has.
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Things You'll Need
- Observations of your husband
- Some knowledge of your husband's sexual habits or suspicions about your husbands habits
- Some knowledge of your husband's motivations
Instructions
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Is your husband driven more by what people think of him than by his actions? Does he try to talk people into thinking better of him or what he does? Does he manipulate people into thinking well of him? Does he put more time and effort into convincing people than he puts into his actions?
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Does he act much differently in public than in private? Is he charming and wonderful in public? Is he mean and critical in private? Do people come up to you and tell you how wonderful he is and how lucky you are to be married to him? Do you find yourself thinking, "If they only knew the real him."?
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Does he have trouble coping with life's minor frustrations? Do little things make him fly off the handle? Could his temper tantrums be called "rage?" Do you never know what will set him off? Is he cruel when he is angry? Does he try to get you to do the little things that frustrate him? Does he feel errands are beneath him? Does he feel his time is more valuable than yours is?
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Does it take your husband an unusually long time to complete tasks when you are not present (either errands and/or work tasks)? Is he inefficient at work? Does he spend hours doing what others accomplish in much less time? Is he a perfectionist? Does he not know the meaning of a work project done "well enough?" Do you suspect some of the time your husband takes to accomplish tasks a cover for womanizing?
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Does your husband have charming and energetic jokes and verbage that is rehearsed or "canned" that he uses in public? Does he seem to be trying to be the center of attention with his act? Does he get irrationally angry when someone criticizes him? Does he react irrationally (or like a toddler) to criticism?
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Have you ever confronted your husband about affairs? Did he seem at all concerned that something he had done might have hurt your feelings? Or did he treat you as if you were being very inconvenient for him with your questions? Did he answer your questions or did he try to find out exactly what you knew BEFORE he answered? Do you get the feeling he tells you one story and other women another story about you?
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Did he ever have a "friend" talk with you to convince you that he wasn't cheating with her? This is a very bad sign. If someone was just a friend, it would be embarrassing to ask her to call your wife to reassure her that you were "just friends." Your husband must be pretty close to her to convince her to get involved in your personal life.
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Have you ever caught your husband in a lie? Does he lie easily? Did it seem to bother him that he lied? When he talks to you at work, does it sound like he has shut his office door or gone into a closet or bathroom? Do you get the feeling he is telling people that you and he are having "problems?" Most women won't cheat with a man who is happily married. There has to be a "reason" for the affair. And the reason is probably YOU.
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Either before or after your marriage, have you ever observed that your husband went from one relationship directly into another relationship with no real grieving or regret about the lost relationship? This is not normal. Therapists call this not being "emotionally invested" in a relationship. It means that women don't mean much to a man. One woman is as good as the next woman. If one woman becomes too much work, it's easier just to get a new one. One that won't ask so many questions. One that makes it easy for your husband to continue his "sex addiction" or "narcissistic" ways.
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If your husband seems to fit this pattern, find a good therapist to help you sort out your feelings and determine what you want to do. Your husband most likely can't or won't change. But you can.
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Tips & Warnings
If you watched the "experts" discuss Tiger's problems, they were fairly evenly split between those who suspected he was a sex addict and those who suspected he has a personality disorder such as narcissism.
Experts debate whether sex addiction is a valid addiction (like drug addiction or alcoholism) or if it is a controllable compulsion.
Experts debate whether the sexual compulsion is a byproduct of a personality disorder or character disorder. Sexual problems are very common with personality disorders--because personality disorders make normal relationships impossible
If your husband has been violent in the past or if you are afraid he will become violent, seek professional help right away.
Resources
- Photo Credit From the Official Tiger Woods Website
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