How to Calm a Screaming Child
For many children, screaming seems to be an innate part of their nature. Frustration, minor illness, hunger, exhaustion and over-stimulation are just a few of the factors that can make even calm children more likely to scream. Although screaming children can be frustrating and annoying, losing your temper can escalate the situation. Instead, strive to remain calm and avoid setting up a power struggle.
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Set new ground rules. If a child frequently screams, he must be taught that it is no longer acceptable. When the child is calm, explain that screaming will no longer be tolerated. Tell the child clearly that screaming will lead to a time-out, and how long the time-out will last.
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Recognize the child's need. Screaming is a poor form of communication, but it is an attempt to communicate. Calmly tell the child that you understand that she is asking for something, but you need for her to tell you clearly what it is. Sometimes a screaming child feels ignored or belittled, and acknowledging the need to communicate can calm the child.
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Speaking calmly but firmly, remind the child that screaming is not allowed. Warn her that if she does not calm down, she will need to go to time-out. Provide two warnings five minutes or so apart.
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Place the child in time-out. The first few times, he might ignore the time-out. Playing, screaming, running around the house and crying are common reactions. Each time the child leaves the time-out area, place him back in time-out and restart the clock.
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Ignore the child during the time-out period as long as she remains in the designated area. Maintain your composure and avoid yelling at the child.
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At the end of the time-out period, give the child a kiss and hug. Praise her for remaining in time-out. Remind her why she was in time-out and ask for an apology. Suppress the urge to dig for the reason for the bad behavior. Tell her that you love her and ask her to calmly tell you what she wanted to say.
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Demonstrate calm communication in your daily life. Children who watch their parents yell at each other or blow up during frustrating situations are more likely to become screamers. Work to maintain a calm composure even when you are upset, which shows the child that disagreements can be solved rationally.
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