Reply cards are an important part of a wedding invitation. A reply card a piece of paper included in the wedding invitation envelope that allows a potential wedding guest to acknowledge a wedding invitation and accept or decline the request. The invitation package includes a self-addressed stamped envelope for the invitee’s convenience. The wording on a reply card ranges from formal to casual depending on the formality of the wedding and the personalities of the bride and groom.
Write a friendly message requesting the presence of your guest at the wedding. For an informal wedding, include a brief sentence that expresses your desire to see the guest on your wedding day. “We look forward to seeing you on our big day!” or “Please come celebrate with us!” are options. An alternative is to include the number of people invited in the greeting. “We have reserved three seats just for you” is wording that reminds the guest how many guests he can bring with him.
Print the deadline for mailing the reply card to you. In a prominent position on the reply card—preferably near the top—write the deadline for sending the reply card back to you. “The favor of a reply is requested by” with the deadline date included at the end is an example of formal wording. As an alternative, use informal wording that is indicative of your personality. “Holler back by” or “Drop this card in the mailbox by” are examples of informal wording.
Provide space for the guest to write her name and the name of her guest. “__ and _____” is an appropriate way to format the line for guests who you expect will bring a guest. For a formal affair, place an “M” before the first blank line. The “M” allows the guest to place Ms., Mrs. or Mr. before the name. The Knot suggests making room to write the guest’s date’s name so that the bride and groom can write the date’s name on the escort card and place card for the reception.
Offer the guest the option of accepting or declining the invitation. Print “Accepts” with a blank line next to it and “Declines” with a blank line next to it. “Accepts with pleasure” and “Declines with regret” are also acceptable wording options.
Include food options for the reception if you are having a plated dinner. Write down the entree option, such as “Chicken,” with a blank line next to it, and write down the other option, such as “Salmon,” with a blank line next to it. Wedding Paper Divas suggests including food options on the reply card so that the bride and groom can get a more accurate estimate of the reception menu.
Tips & Warnings
- Leave space on the back of the reply card for the guest to write a note.
- Use paper for the reply card that complements the paper for the invitation.
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