How to Be Less Shy and More Confident

Shyness can cause debilitating issues in a person.

Shyness, a condition that affects almost 50 percent of the United States population, can be debilitating to an individual. This condition can be caused by a variety of issues including: biological factors, culture, low self-concept and social isolation that can occur as a result of our growing dependence on technology. Often, people who are shy have a hard time in social situations which can affect job prospects and interpersonal relationships. A person who wishes to overcome shyness must practice activities that will build confidence.

Instructions

1. Look people in the eye and smile when you pass people in your everyday life. Start with one person a day and work up gradually until you are able to smile at most people you encounter. Smile back at those who smile at you first. Remember that smiling makes you look more friendly which may make it easier for people to approach you.

2. Join a club that has regular social events and become actively involved in its activities. Ask to join small committees so that you initially interact with a few people you can become comfortable with. Go to as many club events as possible.

3. Take a class and develop a skill you have always wanted to acquire. Share your success in the class with positive, encouraging family members and friends and allow yourself to feel pride at what you are accomplishing.

4. Say "hi" to your next door neighbor when you go and pick up the mail. Greet the church usher you see every week. Acknowledging another person is a way that you can start to break through your wall of shyness.

5. Get a new haircut or buy a shirt that fits you well. Buy the pair of shoes you have been eyeing but felt were too daring. Feeling good about yourself is an excellent way to give you the confidence you need to start fighting your shyness.

6. Stop muttering when people speak to you. Answer people in a clear tone that is easily heard but is not too loud and you will discover that people actually listen to you. This knowledge will help boost your self-confidence and help you deal with your shyness.

7. Let your friends and family know that you are working on overcoming shyness and gaining more confidence in yourself. Ask that they help you by introducing you to people and activities that can draw you out of your shell, and by reminding you of the good traits you possess. Tell them that they are a vital part of the process of you overcoming these challenges.

Tips & Warnings

• Give yourself time. Overcoming shyness is a process and will not be achieved overnight.

• Severe shyness should be treated by a professional. Ask your doctor about help for shyness that seems to be caused by biological factors or depression.

References

• "Encyclopedia of Mental Health Academic Press"; The Shyness Clinic; Lynne Henderson, et al.; 2008